“Sex education in school mostly consisted of watching a VHS from 1987 and hoping for the best.” - Jim Gaffigan
A lot of us took sex education in school and concluded sex is fun, try to stay away from anything that can hurt us, and get as much of it as possible. That was the lesson. And like most things we touched, we didn’t just participate, we used it. We used sex to build our egos up, to feel wanted, important, powerful. For some of us, it turned into a transactional mindset, I do for you, so you do for me. Sex can be a touchy subject. Sometimes we felt like we didn’t have enough, some of us might think we had too much, and most of us, if we’re being honest, weren’t operating on any kind of spiritual principles in this area of our lives. We’re here to get honest about our sexual nature. So now we slow down and take a look, not at the acts, but at the thinking behind them. Did we get used to lying to get sex? Did we stir up fear or jealousy to get what we wanted? Did we make promises of relationships we had no intention of following through on? Did we lead people on just to get something from them? And did our chosen sex lives eventually double down on us in chaos? We’re not here to beat ourselves up. We’re here to tell the truth. Because the same way alcohol twisted our thinking, a lot of us let this area run wild too, and called it sane. And it wasn’t. Sex is a beautiful thing. And now we’re trying to shape our future sex ideals in a way that won’t keep us up at night, well, keep us up worrying about it anyway.
What would it look like for us to bring honesty and respect into this part of our lives today?
