Stopping the Fourth step at this point is like taking only half of the prescribed medication, and the infection is likely to return. We’ve played that game before, and it rarely works out. There’s no turning back now.
Next, we take that list of names again, sometimes using a new piece of paper. We forget about all that stuff we wrote down in the second and third columns for now, and we start looking at our own behavior.
What did we do? Did we yell? Did we scare or threaten the person? Where did we act out of character? Did we lay hands on them, steal, or lie? Where had we been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking, or frightened, and where did we act on it in this relationship?
The mind will want to jump in and say, “yeah, but they started it…” and go right back to the old story. But that’s not what we’re doing here. Who cares who started it.
Where did we go against who we are deep down, our own natural sense of right and wrong, and act out? We all make mistakes. We’re just looking for where ours were in how we handled these situations.
So are you willing to see your mistakes clearly… or are you still trying to prove you were right?
